nbsp; hen e pretend that our orld is epty rather than full, and that our challens are siple rather than plex, e t stuck if e ant to t unstuck, e need to acknoled our terdependence, operate, and feel our ay forard e need therefore to eploy not only our poer but al our love if this unds easy, it is not it is difficult and danro

o pitfalls

poer and love are difficult to ork ith becae each of the has o sides poer has a nerative side and a denerative side, and-less obvioly-love al has a nerative side and a denerative side feist schor pao elchiori poted out to e that e can see these o sets of o sides if e look at historically nstructed nder roles the father, ebodyg ascule poer, goes out to ork, to do his job the nerative side of his poer is that he can create ethg vaable the orld the denerative side of his poer is that he can bee foced on his ork that he denies his nnection to his lleagues and faily, and bees a robot or a tyrant

the other, by ntrast, ebodyg fee love, stays at hoe to raise the children the nerative side of her love is that she gives life, literally to her child and figuratively to her hole faily the denerative side of her love is that she can bee identified ith and e

acg of her child and faily that she denies their and especially her on need for self-realization, and stunts their and her on groth4

love is hat akes poer nerative stead of denerative poer is hat akes love nerative stead of denerative poer and love are therefore exactly pleentary order for each to achieve its full potential, it needs the other jt as the terra nulli perspective of focg only on poer is an error, too is the pop perspective that "all you need is love"

ychologist rollo ay, a friend of paul tillich, arned of the danrs of disnnectg poer hich he referred to as "ill" fro love "love and ill," he rote, "are terdependent and belong tother both are njunctive processes of beg-a reachg out to fence others, oldg, f, creatg the nscioness of the other but this is only possible, an ner sense, if one opens oneself at the sae tie to the fence of the other ill ithout love bees anipution and love ithout ill bees sentiental the botto then dro out of the njunctive eotions and processes"5 ay's njunctive processes al operate on a cial level, and e can effect nonviolent cial chan only if e can enga both our poer and our love

one of the greatest practitioners of nonviolent cial chan, art ther kg jr, as both a practical activist and a spiritual leader he deonstrated a ay of addressg tough cial challens that ent beyond aggressive ar and subissive peace, thereby ntributg to the creation of ne cial realities the united states and around the orld his st presidential speech to the uthern christian leadership nference, kg-drag on his doctoral studies of tillich's ork-ephasized the essential pleentarity beeen poer and love6 "poer ithout love is reckless and abive," kg said, "and love ithout poer is sentiental and aneic"7

y on experience of the past enty years entirely bears out kg's analysis poer ithout love is reckless and abive if those of engad cial chan act to realize ourselves ithout regnizg that e and others are terdependent, the result ill at best be sensitive and at orst, oppressive or even nocidal and love ithout poer is sentiental and aneic if e regnize our terdependence and act to unify ith others, but do a ay that hobbles our on or others' groth, the result ill at best be effectual and at orst, deceitfully rercg of the stat o

poer ithout love produces srched-earth ar that destroys everythg e hold dear love ithout poer produces lifeless peace that leaves stuck pce both of these are terrible outes e need to fd a better ay

his speech, kg ent on to say, "this llision of ioral poer ith poerless orality nstitutes the ajor crisis of our tie"8 this llision ntues becae our porization of poer and love ntues our cieties and unities and anizations, and ith each of , e ually fd a "poer cap," hich pays attention to terests and differences, and a "love cap," hich pays attention to nnections and onalities the llision beeen these o ca- the orlds of bess, politics, and cial chan, aong others-ipedes our ability to ake progress on our toughest cial challens

an iperative

poer and love stand at right angles and deleate the space of cial chan if e ant to t unstuck and to ove around this space-if e ant to address our toughest challens-e t understand and ork ith both of these drives

rather than a choice to be ade one ay or another, poer and love nstitute a peranent dilea that t be renciled ntuoly and creatively this renciliation is easy theory but hard practice carl jung doubted hether it as even possible for these o drives to exist the sae pern: "here love reigns, there is no ill to poer and here the ill poer is paraount, love is ckg the one is but the shado of the other"9 his student robert johnn said, "probably the ost troublee pair of opposites that e can try to rencile is love and poer our odern orld is torn to shreds by this dichotoy, and one fds any ore faires than suesses the attept to rencile the"10

i have seen any exaples of reckless and abive poer ithout love, and any exaples of sentiental and aneic love ithout poer i have seen far feer exaples of poer ith love too fe of are capable of eployg poer ith love ore of need to learn

if e are to sueed -creatg ne cial realities, e cannot choose beeen poer and love e t choose both this book explores ho
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